Mending and Ruminating

I’ve had my surgery. Ouch! Is the pain really supposed to be this bad? I thought they fixed it. Don’t mind me. Whenever I have surgery, I want the instant relief. Nothing in life works that way, but a girl can dream. It’s been over four weeks, and I know I have a long way to go. It’s just really hard not having the use of both arms.

This seems like a good time to share some things with you. I’m somewhat of an inspirational blogger on Cheshire.patch.com.  So, for the next few posts, I’ll share my favorites from The Patch.

Feel free to tell me what you think. And if you dare, share a related story.

I share this favorite first because I need to be reminded of how far I have come since that day in Marshalls. These thoughts still apply and the remembrance will help me survive my recovery process – which I loathe. Recovery is not fun.

In Reaching Distance

Posted on September 10, 2011 at 7:02 pm

 

During a few conversations with acquaintances and an editor, I was told, “why not consider being a motivational speaker or a life coach.”

I immediately thought, “Me?” What could I possibly offer someone, in terms of advice that is? Then I began to listen to myself as I spoke to friends and family. That’s when it hit me. I am a hopeful, inspirational voice in my circle.

So, now (in this blog) I venture out to share this voice with all that will listen – or read.

I’m a single mother of an estranged 20-year-old son, a displaced worker and a somewhat educated unmarried freelance writer. And yet, I am vehemently optimistic about my future. I have my bad days, like we all do. But most days, my goal is not to let the negative things in my life burden me to the point of insanity.

It’s all in the approach – the outlook. Regardless of where I am in my life, I do have a goal – a well laid out plan of attack. And each day, I awake with enthusiasm. Okay, maybe enthusiasm is too strong of a word. How about a determination?

I am determined to matter. I am determined to be happy and make my stand. How I do that is all in the attentiveness of my actions. Something as simple as coming up with a plan and executing it, whether or not I ultimately reach my goal, can be a useful tool in combating bleak outlooks.

Looking back to a conversation with one of my acquaintances, my advice was pretty sound and clear. For putting it on paper’s sake, let’s call her Lisa.

Trying to find that perfect interview top or just something for every day, Lisa and I comb through Marshall’s clearance section, all the while hoping that nothing fits because we can’t afford it anyway. As we both reach the middle of the aisle, she starts telling me of all her unrewarded job efforts.

Being over 50, unemployed and seeing the constant news of layoffs, Lisa was feeling hopeless. “This is the first time in my life that I wasn’t able to find a job right away. I always wanted to be an artist growing up. My dad said I had to do something practical – like accounting. So, I listened to him. Now look where I am.”

As I looked at her in all her despair, I smiled and said, “life will get better for you.” As she looked back at me, probably thinking “is she crazy”, I continued to tell her, “You can only do what you can – no more. So find some balance in your life. Get up every day, spend some of your day looking for a job (internet, library, newspapers, phone calls, etc.) and then spend part of your day only doing things you enjoy. Let these things include: books by favorite authors, going back to school, volunteering, favorite TV shows, relaxing, fun exercises, time alone, time with friends, etc. Our economy seems hopeless, but that you can’t fix. A lot of people are in the same position. Look at this time in your life as a time of rediscovery. You can be whoever you want to be.”

I look at it this way: we all have dreams of what we would love to be doing in life. And, unless that includes being superman or wonder woman, I’m pretty sure they are obtainable. So, stay true to yourself and the dreams you once had and go for it. Maybe even put up a few post-it notes around the house: I have many talents, we are all good at something, I’m gonna take a chance on me, my life is still unfolding, I still have time, I can succeed, etc.

It’s all about vision. As someone once said, “Only he who can see the invisible can do the impossible.”

So, no more “same old routine.” It’s time to make a list. What are you good at? What do you want to do in life? What can you work on right now?

Then every day, from now until infinity, let’s start checking things off that list.

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Bill Cosby was on Fire, that’s all I’m saying…

Wednesday, May 30th 2012, I attended the Get Motivated Business Seminar. If you weren’t there, you missed something special. There are dates in other cities. Check out the website (GetMotivated.com). I promise you that it will be money well spent.

Singing and bobbing my head as I drove home that day, I was newly inspired. I began texting myself notes on how wonderful the experience was. Wish I hadn’t been so sore and tired; I’d have wanted to stay longer. Of course, it was over; but, you never know what kind of stragglers you may run in to.

I’m inspired. I’m motivated. I’m ready to work. Nothing but this surgery will slow me down. Too bad it is upon me. If I hadn’t waited two years for the authorization from the insurance company, I would put it off for 6 months. But, tomorrow morning I awake and head to surgery. And at least I had the chance to experience this seminar that gave me my new found sense of hope – a new joy in my life’s path.

Great people. Fun. Sweet snacks. There were even a few cuties. Huh? What? Did I say that? Oh well. I am single. It’s allowed. I get to look and touch. Remember, I am ‘moving on’ to new things – new people. 🙂

I was disappointed at first. I think mostly this was because I never went to sleep the night before.  As I sat there amongst hundreds of people, all I could think of was my bed. After getting some work done the night before, I just had to watch ‘Man on a Ledge.’ Good movie. Not what I expected, but that is the point, right? Anyway, I was up and determined to learn something.

After I kicked myself in the butt real quick, I listened to the different speakers. That’s when it hit me; there was something for everyone at this seminar. Though it wasn’t pertinent to my needs, Bill Town was very informative and friendly.

And, Mr. Bill Cosby was just like his character Mr. Huxtable; he had great facial expressions and a sense of humor to boot. What am I saying? He is ‘Bill Cosby’; of course he is hilarious. I recall him asking the audience, to show by clapping, how many people have employees who work for them. He told the crowd that he had some wisdom to impart on them. He had the perfect way to help motivate employees. Mr. Cosby went on to tell them that they just have to get their employees together and show them videos of unemployed people. Now, for me, that would be enough motivation. He’s funny.

The other speakers had wonderful information also. And, if I hadn’t been running my mouth so much, I wouldn’t have missed Geno Auriemma and Barbara Corcoran; I had hoped to hear how they ‘got their move on.’ Some attendees came to see all of the speakers, but many had their favorites as I did. Then there was the great Eli Manning. Don’t get me wrong; I’m not a Giants fan, but he is cute. He also spoke well, and he shared some inspirational stories from his younger years.

It’s just what I needed. You know how sometimes life just seems to be moving along; things are busy, and then we start to get worn out? Then, before you know it, inspiration jumps out at you from an unexpected, exciting source. I learned what we all already know. I learned that if you want to do something, just do it. No procrastination. No fear. No excuses. Do it. So, I’m done with life getting in the way of my goals. I’m on the move.

As my friend, Kelly, said recently, “You are on a roll.” And, yes, I am.

I am, because I am ‘moving on.’

What about you?