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MOVERS AND SHAKERS

Launch Issue

Launch Issue

By Melissa Flynn

Moving And Other Matters (MAOM), inspirational leaders of Cheshire, have long been working on our upcoming Driving Forward Seminars, scheduled for July 2013. (https://july2013.ticketbud.com/maomdfs) However, while we wait for summer to come, we realize that there is so much more we could be doing to interact with the community. Keeping in line with the idea of increasing our network, we at MAOM are proud to present our first monthly company newsletter, Movers and Shakers.

Movers and Shakers (MAS) was designed to provide you with a more intimate view into the workings of MAOM. In the first issue, we have concentrated an introducing the company, recapping what we’ve done recently, and advertising upcoming events. Yet, despite the factual focus, all the articles (and articles in future issues) were infused with the philosophy of Melissa Flynn and the company, designed not only to inform the reader of what we’re up to, but also as a medium for sharing our inspirational messages. Most pieces contained within were written by Melissa Flynn, with some very noteworthy exceptions. Will Dunlop, writing & editorial intern, runs a column in which he applies lessons from Melissa to solve real life problems, showing you just how easy it is to benefit from her practices. Kelly Schmidt, Vice President of Operations, has a small section in which she will share her own original sayings. We are sure you will find them inspiring, speaking to your inner musings about life and goals, and sometimes even entertaining.

And the other exception is one that you, prospective reader, might find particularly interesting—MAOM is offering a Guest Spotlight column for anyone who would like to contribute to the newsletter. We accept opinion articles, letters to the editor, and other works. We at MAOM feel your work will help enrich our newsletter, but we also offer this opportunity as an extension of our company’s policy to help people—writers, in this case—share their work and thereby achieve their goals. The official guidelines for submissions are included in this first issue of MAS, and the Guest Spotlight was a short story by Connecticut writer Robin Swetz.

To receive a copy of our April or May newsletter, send your contact information (name, address, and email) to movingontoinspire@gmail.com or fax it to (203) 303-7225. Or you may call our office at (203) 707-3918 and give it to a representative.

You can also like our Facebook page at: https://www.facebook.com/pages/Movers-And-Shakers-newsletter/565923096771753?ref=hl

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And as we move on, let’s all remember to say an extra prayer for those affected by the events in Boston, MA.

NEW VIEWS. OR ARE THEY?

Cute boots, huh?

Cute boots, huh?

Explaining the meaning of life...

Explaining the meaning of life…

By Melissa Flynn

It’s 2013 and I’m still moving on. What about you?

Whatever you are doing, please tell me that you didn’t make New Year’s resolutions. Please tell me that you didn’t write down that you wanted to lose weight and dump that loser.

Instead let’s all make a list of life goals. Then every year, I want you all to review and revise those goals. It’s all about retrospection and redesign.

Recently, I did one of my “Moving On” workshops at a local church. I preached the same thing to them—forget resolutions and concentrate on the bigger picture.

My sister Halima has an interesting idea of rebooting that I also shared with the group. At the beginning of each year, she cleans the house, stocks up on all supplies and toiletries, and even backs up her computer. It’s all a bit more than I want to do, but I like the idea. Feel free to read more about her ideas on her blog. (halimaflynn.blogspot.com)

I think we can all agree that it doesn’t hurt to reboot, reorganize or re-evaluate our lives—especially for those times when we feel like we are hitting a wall. It’s like that saying that I have repeated to my son over and over. “If you keep doing something and it isn’t working, then try something different.”

Sometimes when we try to move on, no matter what we do it does not work. That means it is time to re-evaluate—revise your course of action.

I explained my notion of retrospection to the church group. But I also added that we must all pull together and help one another. As I talked, I saw a smile and a nod, here and there. Being presumptuous, as I tend to be, I took those expressions and body language to mean that they agreed and understood.

My talk continued, as it usually does, with me going on and on about my trials and tribulations. I decided to move on from my mess and reach out to help others. (FYI: Helping others helps you. Helping you helps others.) And as many do, I struggle along the way. No matter how great my determination, life doesn’t always work out as planned. I conjure up inspiration wherever I can: a Psalm, a MLK Jr. Speech, The Presidential Inauguration, and maybe even a glance from my mother’s picture in my office.

It matters not how strait the gate,
How charged with punishments the scroll.
I am the master of my fate:
I am the captain of my soul.

William Ernest Henley

These and many other words, help me maintain my balance. The world needs more beacons of hope and inspiration—people who are willing and able to spread the word that it is never too late to get your life on track. I have decided to be such a person. So if you need a bit of inspiration for any cause, send me a note: movingontoinspire@gmail.com.

If you have a group who needs inspiration, send me a note. If you need a coach to keep you on track, send me a note. Even if you just want to say hi, send me a note.

We all find ways to cope with what life throws at us. Sometimes those coping mechanisms are not very healthy. I can give you some tips to find healthier ones. And in the meantime, I want you all to do two things for me.

 Make a list of goals
 Then get up every day and work towards those goals

And at the end, it is not important whether or not you complete those goals. What are most important are the journey and the people you meet along the way.

To reiterate, forget the making of New Year’s resolutions. According to the definition, resolutions could look a lot like goals. That I can agree with; just don’t wait until January 1st to try and push yourself towards succeeding within the next twelve months. Sit down and set some short and long-term goals for your life. Then be realistic about the things you need to do in order to reach those goals.

And in order to stay focused, I want you all to copy these things down and repeat them regularly.

 I AM SOMEBODY
 WE ARE ALL SOMEBODY
 WE HAVE TO WORK TOGETHER, THAT’S HOW COMMUNITIES GROW
 I WILL IDENTIFY MY FEARS
 I WILL OVERCOME MY FEARS
 I WILL STAY FOCUSED
 I WILL BE A LEADER
 I WILL BE AN EXAMPLE FOR ALL CHILDREN
 I WILL HELP MY NEIGHBORS

As I put this down on paper for you, I was remembering a couple of things: that movie “Pay It Forward” and Ann Curry’s 26 acts of kindness campaign.

So let’s move on and make the most of our time.

“LIFE WAS SIMPLER WHEN I HAD NO TEETH”

Me with no teeth

By Melissa Flynn

I’ve decided to move on without teeth. Confused? Yeah, it’s just that I’m no good with them. As a child, I could eat whatever I wanted, open bottles and miss a floss here and there without my teeth falling out.

You are probably wondering what I am talking about. I feel like it was just last month that I bit into that gummi bear and heard a crunch—actually it was about 6 months ago. The other day, I went into the refrigerator for a drink. I thought, “Mmm, cold Cranberry Ginger ale, this is going to be good.” Little did I know, but my strength was not what it used to be.

So, there I was twisting and turning. I was, as they say, giving it the ‘ole college try. Yet, still no luck. So, I figured I could just twist it with my teeth. Crunch. Crackle. And no, it wasn’t the cereal with the commercial that goes Snap, Crackle, and Pop. I looked at the bottle top and there was a crack. Okay. No worries. The next thing I knew, it felt like there was a small pebble on my tongue. Shit. It was a piece of my tooth.

Needless to say, I now have another reason to see the dentist. I hate going to the dentist. First, there is the fact that it always hurts more after they are done. Second, I’m usually at least $500 poorer once I leave. Seeing that this tooth is in the front of my mouth, I’ve decided to let it go for a while. For the next few weeks or so, I will be eating oatmeal, soup, apple sauce, bread and maybe a stiff drink here and there. And if anyone knows a good, cheap—okay, not cheap, but inexpensive—dentist…

I wish someone had told me that dealing with life’s issues would be this hard, especially when you don’t have any dental insurance. And, as many may be, I am waiting to see how the new medical reform will help my situation.

Personally, I think my situation is hopeless. Is there a medical plan that allows you to do a full body scan for all broken bones and torn ligaments and tendons? If so, I need that. Is there a medical plan that allows me to see every type of doctor that is out there? Okay, because I will probably need that also. I might sound a bit dramatic. I really could use a vacation. So, if anyone has any free tickets to anywhere outside of the Northeastern region, I want to go. I really need to get away from me. That reminds me.

About a month ago, I came to the conclusion that we all need to reboot every once and a while. And people, I am not talking about rebooting your computers. Whether or not it is a spa day, a dinner out or a movie with a friend, we all must remember that sometimes it is good to get away from ourselves.

So, as I, once again, watched an October storm make its mark, I put together a new list of priorities.

October 2012’s New List of Priorities

  • Spend some time taking care of me
  • Write
  • Read
  • Spend more time taking care  of me
  • Reboot
  • Work on business plan
  • Put together marketing plan
  • Spend more time taking care of me
  • Reboot
  • Spend even more time taking care of me

I’m sure you can see the theme here. Many people, like me, have a habit of staying so focused on trying to accomplish something in life that we forget to do things to take care of ourselves. For example, even on the days that I can afford to eat :), I many times forget to eat. I’m always so concerned with how I’m going to pay my bills. This economy has even forced me to think about how I will survive at 65 or 70 years old.  That used to be the least of my concerns. But, being single, I realized I needed to start planning.

So, in between taking care of me—eating, sleeping more, getting a Mani/Pedi, going on a vacation with you, and going to a movie sometime—and rebooting–I also have to figure out who gets all my books when I am gone.

When I was a teenager, I couldn’t wait to get older—just to be able to make my own choices. If I knew that meant I was going to have to pay my own bills and take the car to get an oil change, I would have told my mom that I didn’t want to get older. I’m not sure that was an option, but a girl can dream.

So, here I am in 2012. I wake up every day, and I keep trying to make things work. No matter what life throws at me, I will keep ‘moving on’ to bigger and better things. You can ask why, if you’re curious. And I will tell you, “Because that’s what we women do.” So, as soon as I get this tooth taken care of, I will try that rebooting thing and get back to you. And, if any of you have time to try it before then, please let me know how it works out.

Autumn Rushes in—Moves on

 

Another month glides by as I continue to lick my wounds. Some days I long to get out and scream. I fear no one will hear me, so I rest when I need to and keep going while I can. In the past week, I have been resting, writing and consuming lots of continual fluids—a cold or maybe a flu-like bug has struck my system.

There has been a chill in the air and a bug at my back door. I love the fresh air; I really do. But these rain and wind storms scare me. Where can you run that the lightning won’t follow? Will these storms bring darkness as it did last year? To that I say, please don’t. In my house, it was a day in August and five days with the October storm. Let’s hope Mother Nature spares us this fall.

So, as my head slowly unclutters and the skies continue to grey, I’m reminded of my blog Wuthering Storms—mostly because I’m lying here wrapped in my quilt.

For this time and once more to come, I will share an old post from The Cheshire Patch. After that, I will continue to move on and see where that leads.

Please feel free to let me know when there is something you would like to know more about.

So, here is what I have to share.

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Wuthering Storms

Posted on August 29, 2011 at 2:50 am

Malissia and Melissa

Five days in advance, I scampered around to find my batteries, flashlights, lighters, candles, extra cell phone, rain coat, boots and emergency food cooler – complete with granola bars, H2O bottles, vitamins, canned tuna, can opener and Ritz crackers. Having no idea just how bad Irene would hit, I had to prepare for the worst. My first instinct would be to head for my bed and wait for her to pass.

And now as I lay here awaiting her complete departure, I’m reminded of storms, like Hurricane Gloria, from my younger years. Even then, nothing gave me more comfort than my Nana’s quilt. I’d crawl in the bed, wrap it around me and pray to be kept safe.

Nana was my favorite grandmamma Malissia – my maternal great grandmother. Growing up, I skipped preschool to stay home with her. She taught me how to cook, sew and speak my mind. Nana was so funny. She’d tell you just what she thought of you and could care less if it hurt. Of course, when it came to me, my Nana was gentle. She was my best friend.

When I was four, I sat in her room handing her patches of cloths. I watched as she stitched each piece together and blessed it with her sweat. I begged her to let me help with the arrangement; I thought the colors were so pretty and resembled the sky. Little did I know that the quilt was my special present.

One day while I was out with my mom, I came home to find it spread on my bed. I screamed to Nana that I loved her and hugged my bed tight. And now as I lay here wondering if Irene will blow the house down, I hold my bed tight.

As children, we find comfort in physical objects. But as adults, our attachments to these objects and memories of the people associated with them can become internal resources we can take anywhere. We carry quilts of coping, quilts of hope and quilts patched together from precious memories. Tell me about your quilts. Tell me about your patches.

What are the moments that you hold tight? What moments enable you to weather the wuthering times? Let’s remember these memories and share. Irene has given us these moments to reflect. So feel free to share moments of relationships past and present.

Like relationships, quilts do become worn. But, with a few added patches and some stitches, its life can be prolonged. So, no need to let Irene get you down; she could have been much worse.

As Terri Guillemets (a US quotation anthologist) said, “Weather is a great metaphor for life – sometimes it’s good, sometimes it’s bad, and there’s nothing much you can do about it but carry an umbrella.”

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Let’s hope my quilt is enough to keep me warm this fall, as I move on.